Angie Robert - Online Memorial Website

Bereaved Parents Wish List

I wish my child hadn't died. I wish I had him
back!!
I wish you wouldn't be afraid to speak my child's name. My child lived and was very important to me. I need to hear that he was important to you also.
If I cry and get emotional when you talk about my child, I wish you knew that it isn't because you have hurt me. My child's death is the cause of my tears. You have talked about my child and you have allowed me to share my grief. I thank you for both.
Being a bereaved parent is not contagious, so I wish you wouldn't shy away from me. I need you now more than ever.
I need diversions, so I do want to hear about you, but I also want you to hear about me. I might be sad and I might cry, but I wish you would let me talk about my child; my favorite topic of the day.
I know that you think of and pray for me often. I also know that my child's death pains you too. I wish you would let me know these things through a phone call, a card or note, or a real big hug.
I wish you wouldn't expect my grief to be over. These first years
are traumatic for me, but I wish you could understand that my grief will never be over. I will suffer the death of my child until the day I die.
I am working hard in my recovery, but I wish you could understand that I will never fully recover. I will always miss my child and I will always grieve that they are gone.
I wish you wouldn't expect me "not to think about it" or "be happy". Neither will happen for a very long time, so don't frustrate yourself.
I don't want to have a "Pity party", but I do wish you would let me grieve. I must hurt before I can heal.
I wish you understood how my life has shattered. I know it is miserable for you to be around me when I'm feeling miserable. Please be as patient with me as I am with you.
When I say, "I'm doing okay", I wish you could understand that I don't "feel" okay and that I struggle daily.
I wish you knew that all of the grief reactions I'm having are very normal. Depression, anger, hopelessness and overwhelming sadness are all to be expected. So please excuse me when I'm quiet and withdrawn or irritable and cranky.
Your advice to "take it one day at a time" is excellent advice.
However, a day is too much and too fast for me right now. I wish you could understand that I'm doing good to handle an hour at a time.
Please excuse me if I seem rude, certainly not my intent. Sometimes the world around me goes too fast and I need to get off. When I walk away, I wish you would let me find a quiet place to spend time alone.
I wish you understood that grief changes people. When my child died, a big part of me died with him. I am not the same person I was before my child died and I will never be that person again.
I wish very much that you could understand ~ understand my loss and my grief.
But....
I pray daily that you will never understand

ALL MY LOVE XOXO

The Messenger

 

From an Angel on high 
a tender message of love was softly whispered into the ear  of this humble scribe.... 

 

 

Weep not for me

now that I have passed.

Remember the laughter, the affection, the joy

not just the recent tears.

 

Cherish the memories, our hopes and dreams.

Hold fast to the love that we shared.

Be happy with the time we spent together

and being anew.

For I am not really gone,

I am closer than ever before.

 

As the morning sun rises

and throughout the busy day...I am with you.

Until the setting sun disappears on the horizon

and we watch the day turn into night...I am here.

You may feel a faint breeze
stir round your head, while you slumber

as I gently kiss your forehead, "Good night."

The stars that shine so brightly in my heavenly sky

help me watch over you and keep you from harm.

 

I am the wind in the trees

and the song of a bird.

I am moonbeams in a midnight sky

and a glorious rainbow after the storm.

I am morning dew

and freshly-fallen snow.

I am a butterfly flying overhead

and a puppy happily at play.

I am a smile on a stranger's face

a gentle touch

a warm embrace.

 

Listen to the wind for my message of love.

Watch the sun rise and set in the sky with me.

Feel my essence encircle you with warm memories.

Open your heart to know...I am not gone.

Reach deep into your soul...You will find me.

 

I am here.

Have no fear.

I am with you,
Always.

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Remembering

Go ahead and mention my loved one,
The one that died, you know.
Don't worry about hurting me further.
The depth of my pain doesn't show.

Don't worry about making me cry
I'm already crying inside.
Help me to heal by releasing
The tears that I try to hide.

I'm hurt when you just keep silent,
Pretending they didn't exist,
I'd rather you mention my loved one
Knowing that they have been missed.

You asked me how I was doing
I say "pretty good" or "fine"
But healing is something ongoing
I feel it will take a lifetime.

~Elizabeth Dent

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You and Me
by: Kathryn O.

Who will I turn to now that your gone?
Who will comfort me when my day has been long?
Without you here, how will I get by?
All I can do is cry and cry

My friends are afraid of what I might do
They know I'd do anything to be with you
While in my mind that seems the best choice
I pray for guidance, then I hear your voice

We will be together at some point in time
For the love that we share is a love that binds
It will stand the test of the now and forever
To start again on new endeavors

Dry your tears, I hate to see you cry
Be brave and strong and you'll get by
You will get through this, just wait and see
Before you know it, it will again be you and me

ALL MY LOVE XOXO

 

Father in heaven, hear my prayer.
Keep me in thy loving care.
Be my guide in all I do.
Bless all those who love me too.

This day will be a celebration
of the short time you were here.
You will always be remembered
with great love and many tears.
But to only feel pain and sorrow
would not be fair to you.
Your life meant so much more to us,
more than words could say.
You were here so briefly,
I wonder if you knew
all the ways you’ve touched
our world and our hearts
and everyone who knew you
since the day God called you home.
Now my child, you’re an angel
with your heavenly Father above,
we see not only what we’ve lost
but our capacity of love.
There will always be a big void
in our life and a hole in our
hearts that will never heal.
Our souls will grieve forever.
Will we forget or stop loving you?
No! Not now…not ever.
As this day is upon us,
oh, how our hearts still hurt.
But even as I mourn your death,
we will always celebrate your birth.
It was the happiest day of our lives.

 

YOU WILL BE REMEMBERED

You will be remembered when the flowers bloom in spring
And in the summertime remembered
In the fun that summer brings

You will be remembered
When fall brings leaves of gold
In the wintertime,remembered,in the stories that are told

And you will be remembered,each day right from the start
For the memories that we once shared
Forever live within my heart